Chris Molyneaux
People-first language

I’ve realized that a lot of people on the Autism spectrum do not like being referred to as “people with autism” because it implies that autism can be separated from the person. This is similar to deaf culture. They take pride in being deaf as a positive identity, and they prefer to be called “deaf people” or “hard of hearing people”, instead of “hearing impaired.”

Yes, there’s no denying that Autism is an unchangeable part of what I am. The way I see it, if you call someone on the Autism spectrum an “autistic person” it makes it sound like that it’s their only definition of themselves. Is it a part of you? Yes! I get that it’s not something you can remove like a shirt. I get that we all say “man” or “woman” instead of “person with maleness/femaleness”. But just because you have something doesn’t mean you can’t get rid of it! Yes it’s how my brain functions and it justifies the decisions I make, but it’s not the be all end all definition of who I am.

I guess my take on people-first language was stemmed from the fact that I have high-functioning autism and I want to be recognized more for my music than for my autism. But this is only how I see it. If you are on the Autism spectrum and you want to be called an autistic person, go right ahead. I am not forcing you to change how you identify yourself. I respect everyone’s various views of the world.

However, I also hate to make anyone upset with what I post, so if you take offense to my people first-language then I sincerely apologize. I am always aiming to improve myself through the power of education, and if that means correcting my vernacular in a way that pleases everybody, I will not hesitate to do it.

From here on out I shall refer to individuals as “people on the Autism spectrum”. I hope that is okay with you all and if it’s not, please let me know.

ambam91:

I kinda miss this #sarnia #BlueWaterBridge (photo cred: @samwessner8 )

Me too.

ambam91:

I kinda miss this #sarnia #BlueWaterBridge
(photo cred: @samwessner8 )

Me too.

It may be unfair, but what happens in a few days, sometimes even a single day, can change the course of a whole lifetime…
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l-lound:

mantra: don’t say anything to yourself that Bob Ross wouldn’t say to you

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autisticadvocacy:

Image is a chalkboard, with “Education NOT Elimination!” written on it.

autisticadvocacy:

Image is a chalkboard, with “Education NOT Elimination!” written on it.

goldenheartedrose:

chrismolyneaux:

goldenheartedrose:

whatisthisunfuckery:

goldenheartedrose:

chrismolyneaux:

This is huge!!! It looks like Autism Speaks is finally giving individuals on the spectrum a chance to talk about their first-hand experience with Autism!
This matters a lot to me, guys. This makes me so happy. :’)

I wouldn’t get your hopes up too much, because that segment of their website has sort of been a thing for awhile?
But here’s me crossing my fingers that it’ll turn out better this time than it has in the past.

That segment of their website has been a thing hilariously mostly consisting of NT parents writing about living on the spectrum. It’s…painful.

That’s what I thought.

Actually, some of the stories on here are written by people with autism and it’s not all tragic! They talk about how they learned to deal with it over the years, what they have accomplished in their life, and how we should be focusing on what people can do, not what they can’t do.

SOME.  Not all.  And for a segment that is entitled “In Our Own Words: Living On the Spectrum”, well, that’s a huge fucking problem.  It isn’t our own words if it’s our parents talking about us.  Nooooope.   

You are definitely right. There are stories from here that are from the perspectives of parents.
But you have to remember that there are some children with Autism who cannot communicate at all, so their parents have to say their opinions for them. They’re not assuming what they’re feeling and thinking, they watch their child communicate (not always verbally) and they get a sense of what they’re saying.
You’re definitely right, we need to hear some more first-hand stories (which is the point of In Our Own Words) but that’s something to keep in mind.

goldenheartedrose:

chrismolyneaux:

goldenheartedrose:

whatisthisunfuckery:

goldenheartedrose:

chrismolyneaux:

This is huge!!! It looks like Autism Speaks is finally giving individuals on the spectrum a chance to talk about their first-hand experience with Autism!

This matters a lot to me, guys. This makes me so happy. :’)

I wouldn’t get your hopes up too much, because that segment of their website has sort of been a thing for awhile?

But here’s me crossing my fingers that it’ll turn out better this time than it has in the past.

That segment of their website has been a thing hilariously mostly consisting of NT parents writing about living on the spectrum. It’s…painful.

That’s what I thought.

Actually, some of the stories on here are written by people with autism and it’s not all tragic! They talk about how they learned to deal with it over the years, what they have accomplished in their life, and how we should be focusing on what people can do, not what they can’t do.

SOME.  Not all.  And for a segment that is entitled “In Our Own Words: Living On the Spectrum”, well, that’s a huge fucking problem.  It isn’t our own words if it’s our parents talking about us.  Nooooope.   

You are definitely right. There are stories from here that are from the perspectives of parents.

But you have to remember that there are some children with Autism who cannot communicate at all, so their parents have to say their opinions for them. They’re not assuming what they’re feeling and thinking, they watch their child communicate (not always verbally) and they get a sense of what they’re saying.

You’re definitely right, we need to hear some more first-hand stories (which is the point of In Our Own Words) but that’s something to keep in mind.

goldenheartedrose:

whatisthisunfuckery:

goldenheartedrose:

chrismolyneaux:

This is huge!!! It looks like Autism Speaks is finally giving individuals on the spectrum a chance to talk about their first-hand experience with Autism!
This matters a lot to me, guys. This makes me so happy. :’)

I wouldn’t get your hopes up too much, because that segment of their website has sort of been a thing for awhile?
But here’s me crossing my fingers that it’ll turn out better this time than it has in the past.

That segment of their website has been a thing hilariously mostly consisting of NT parents writing about living on the spectrum. It’s…painful.

That’s what I thought.

Actually, some of the stories on here are written by people with autism and it’s not all tragic! They talk about how they learned to deal with it over the years, what they have accomplished in their life, and how we should be focusing on what people can do, not what they can’t do.

goldenheartedrose:

whatisthisunfuckery:

goldenheartedrose:

chrismolyneaux:

This is huge!!! It looks like Autism Speaks is finally giving individuals on the spectrum a chance to talk about their first-hand experience with Autism!

This matters a lot to me, guys. This makes me so happy. :’)

I wouldn’t get your hopes up too much, because that segment of their website has sort of been a thing for awhile?

But here’s me crossing my fingers that it’ll turn out better this time than it has in the past.

That segment of their website has been a thing hilariously mostly consisting of NT parents writing about living on the spectrum. It’s…painful.

That’s what I thought.

Actually, some of the stories on here are written by people with autism and it’s not all tragic! They talk about how they learned to deal with it over the years, what they have accomplished in their life, and how we should be focusing on what people can do, not what they can’t do.

My father had taught me to be nice first, because you can always be mean later, but once you’ve been mean to someone, they won’t believe the nice anymore. So be nice, be nice, until it’s time to stop being nice, then destroy them.
― Laurell K. Hamilton (via psych-quotes)
fowllanguagecomics:

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fowllanguagecomics:

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Don’t do anything by half. If you love someone, love them with all your soul. When you go to work, work your ass off. When you hate someone, hate them until it hurts.
Henry Rollins (via futuregroupie)